I have the worst communication skills ever. I never keep in contact with people. I don't know if it's because no one I've met is worth keeping in contact with or if I just really like being by myself a lot. I think it's a little of both. There are a select few that I really love hanging out with but I still don't talk or make plans as often as I should. It's just not me. I go all day just enjoying my time and by the time I realize that I could have called so and so and done something it's like 7 pm.
I thought at first that I was a loner. I love spending time with other people as long as they are people I get along with so maybe it's not that I am a loner. I can't really explain it though. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I come from a small town where there is hardly ever anything to do so I am so used to not doing anything? I have NO IDEA!!
The one good thing I get out of this is that I really learn who my friends are. The people who I can talk to and just pick up wherever we left off like the last time we talked was yesterday are who I really appreciate. They don't hold this against me and understand that I even stop talking to my family for periods of time just because it never crosses my mind until weeks go by.
Does this happen to anyone else or am I just extremely weird?
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I remember driving out to Raleigh with you and we had this conversation. I think that's why we are both ok with how our friendship works :) :)
I do remember that! I am glad it works. I wish I could change it though and be more normal but I swear I am missing a chromosome or something lol.
You aren't the only one! I think it just becomes a habit when you are so use to spending so much time alone. Even in classes, I tend to sit alone. Just because i'm so use to it. A lot of the time I just don't know what to say to people. haha But I end up with little to no friends because of it.
I do that too. I always liked to sit alone at college unless I was friends with someone in the class. But I think you have a good point with being alone so often that it's almost habit. I wonder if there is a way to fix it though. A huge problem I almost always end up having is that I get annoyed with people easily. I lose a lot of "friends" because I get obsessed with one awful quality they have and I can't stand them anymore. There are people I have met and could never get sick of though so I know it's just a matter of who I meet. Maybe I'm just a creeper magnet? lol
I think being alone we just get ourselves into a routine and we just get so used to that certain routine that by the time we remember our friends exist, so much time has passed by.
btw thought i saw ur new car today and it had ny plates so i was following it but it wasnt u cuz the plate ontop said schnectady (sp?)
I think since we get so used to being alone we get ourselves into a certain routine and we get so used to it that when we remember our friends exist so much time has passed by.
I don't know. I've done that before. I'm easily annoyed sometimes. Especially when it comes to table manners. lol But, for me i've always had a tough time trying to make friends with other girls. They either seem really bitchy or think i'm a bitch when the majority of the time it's just that I don't know what to say. It really sucks sometimes! haha
OMG haha that is so creepy! I don't have state plates on my car yet I have a dealer temp plate and it will be a NC plate once I get it but I would have done the same thing!
And Lacey that is so true! That is usually what happens to me too. I think patience is really key with a lot of people. We just have to remember that everyone is different and first impressions aren't everything :-)
If only other people realized first impressions aren't everything because I always feel like I make a horrible one! haha
You know what really helps with the whole first impression jitters? I pretend like I've met them before and just be super friendly and smile often. I realized that if you look around in a room full of people the ones not talking to anyone are the ones not smiling when you look at them either. Body language makes a huge difference but confidence is always helpful too!
I never thought of that before! If i'm alone somewhere, i'm usually not smiling. I'll have to try that next time i'm out somewhere. :)
You are totally not alone!! I do the same thing. In fact, some days I don't even leave the house just because I don't feel like interacting with other people. I don't keep up with people like I should...and I treasure those friends who understand and that I can pick up right where I left off with.
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