My best friend is famous, practically

One of my very best friends, Anna Belickis is a writer for this great site called Awards Circuit. They deal with everything movies. Anna is an amazing critique and writer and I'm so very proud of her. She has recently been interviewed and I want to spread the word of not only who she is and what she does, but of what the site is about and how awesome it is.

http://www.awardscircuit.com/2011/09/29/digging-into-anna-belickis/

That's the link to her interview. Find out a little more about her! Then check out the site. I bet you'll love it :-)

Changes

There have been some crazy changes in my life recently. The biggest is that I have a new job! Finally I have a job lol. I will be hostessing and waitressing at a local restaurant. I'm excited and incredibly nervous. It's a high class restaurant so mistakes are unacceptable when it comes to waitressing. I have to memorize the menu as well as be able to answer any questions people may have about the food. Plus I need to know every drink imaginable pretty much. Things like on the rocks, with or without salt and all that jazz. And then I have to know which glasses each drink goes in because they all have to have different ones of course. Lol. My mind is going to explode I'm sure.

I start training Monday. I have study guides for the menus and proper serving technique. That's how serious they are. Oh, and there will be a test. Yea, nervous for sure.

The other big change is that I can finally assistant coach modified volleyball with my sister in law. Well officially on Monday after the school board meeting. But everything on my part is finished. Yay!

And lastly, I decided to stop selling Scentsy. I just have zero time for it and I've discovered that I am just not the pushy sales lady I need to be in order to be a successful independent consultant. Oh well, no harm done trying it. Except I have a ton of product left lol.

All in all I'm pretty excited right now. I really hope I can pick up this waitressing thing quickly because I really want to be good at it and I really need to get out of my house and make some money on my own.

Wish me luck!

Making it known

I have seen a couple times where people say they have no business complaining about missing their husbands because they aren't deployed or aren't deployed for a year.

I say hog wash! I think every wife has a right to miss her husband and express that. Even if she misses him while he's 5 feet away in the kitchen. We are all in the same boat regardless of where our husband's are. I miss my husband even when he's home with me simply because I know more that it wont be that way for very long.

So whether your husband is in another country or right next to you, make sure he knows how much you miss him. If the case is he's right next to you, don't worry about sounding silly, by now he should now that as women we come up with some strange emotions.

It hit me today

It finally hit me today. What I've realized is just how much this deployment sucks. Today a friend's husband came home from deployment. It made me sad at first and then excited and then it hit me. Her husband left after mine did and he's home already.
It's a harsh realization that although we are past half way, we still have just under a normal deployment left.
It hurts. I've stayed really positive this whole deployment and I don't want to let that slide. But this new found thought has really spun me around.
My heart hurts. All I can think about is how much I miss him and how much my soul aches to be near him again. I've had countless people tell me just because you're in love doesn't mean you need to be around that person all the time. They obviously have never been separated for so long.
I told him today that my heart hurts so much that I wish I could take it out and put it in a box for when he returns, just so I didn't have to feel the pain. That's true, but what's also true is that in between the pain is the love.
The pain wouldn't hurt as bad without the love but the love wouldn't be so amazing if it wasn't for the pain. Irony is a cruel concept.

So here's to another half a year without him physically by my side. Nothing can stop what we've got. Not distance, pain, or shear torture that is this deployment.

Certified

Today I had to sit through a CPR/First Aid class to be certified to coach for volleyball. It was a miserable 5 hours. The class itself wasn't awful, it was the teacher and people in it. You know those people who can't talk without finding some way to relate it to a life story? Well that was my teacher. And the rest of my class. I swear I was the only person who realized that we were wasting so much time and if we just focused on learning then we could have been out of there in 3 1/2 hours instead of 5.

BUT I practiced patience and I am very proud of myself for not blurting out "Shut the hell up!" or "Can we just learn about rescuing and not what your child ate for breakfast?"Big accomplishment for me.

And on the bright side, I am now certified in CPR and first aid and therefore as soon as the school board approves me I can rejoin my sister in law and our girls with modified volleyball. I can't wait!

Oh and some life updates. Remember my college/ joining the military dilemma? Well it's solved, again. As of now I am finishing my bachelors in the spring and starting my MBA right after that. Hubs is starting school next month too. Once he gets out we are moving to the Charlotte NC area.

Right now the only thing in the air is if my hubbers is getting out completely or joining the reserves. I believe he has to make a decision soon so I will keep you updated.

Oh, and Abigail is 6 1/2 months old already!! Time is flying by and I really couldn't be happier. She's almost crawling but I think she prefers to try and stand and walk instead. She has 2 teeth but I haven't been able to get a picture of them yet because she doesn't like to show them. BUT mark my words I will get a picture of them eventually.

Ok, Toodles!

Song Link Up

My song this week is Austin by Blake Shelton. It's my favorite song ever. It always makes me cry happy tears. Or at least tear up. This song is from back in his not so sexy days. But it will forever hold a place in my top songs ever list.

My husband is super amazing

My husband does little romantic things all the time. He always tells me he loves me, he sends me flowers, he comes up behind me and hugs me just to be next to me... things like that. But when it comes to BIG romantic gestures he's not so prone to them. Not that he doesn't want to he just doesn't ever realize deep down that's what I love.

Well, Mr. Sykes finally got it. He did the most romantic thing I have ever seen. It was a loving gesture, as well as putting his thoughts and feelings out there which isn't easy for him. I've never been so happy I've cried before until now. Actually that's a lie. I cried at him graduation obviously and lately I cry all the time. Like when Abi tries really hard to crawl or someone in some movie finds love. But that's besides the point. When I open this beautiful gift and read the cover I started crying and I didn't stop until I read it all.

Ok, ok so what is this gift you ask? It is a book titled "The Reasons Why I Love To Love You." Under that is says "For My Amazing Wife." And on every page of the book is a different reason why he loves. me. With the cutest little illustrations too. Here are some pictures of some of my favorite pages.

There are tons of other pages but these ones were especially cute to me. I've waited 4 years for him to finally show me his deepest romantic side and FINALLY I got it! 

And yes, I'm 100% bragging. I have every right to. After all, I have the most amazing husband there ever was or ever will be<3

Ok, I'm back

My town was flooded yet again. That makes two times in the past 10 days. Thankfully my families homes weren't damaged too badly and mine wasn't at all. It's just such a pain to evacuated let alone twice in 10 days.

I would really love for the rain to stop and the hurricanes to get the hell away from here. This is ridiculous. People just finished cleaning up and repairing their homes and then it comes and destroys them again. It's awful.

I was at my in laws house while we were evacuated which was wonderful. Except my dog decided he wanted to get sick and had diarrhea all over the house in the middle of the night. It was horrible. I scrubbed on my hands and knees and thankfully they had a carpet cleaner. I felt horrible but the amazing people they are they thought nothing of it.

I am praying that we have a dry spell for a while so we can lay off of the flooding. I cannot stand it anymore.

Here we go again.

So I haven't been posting lately because once again we have been evacuated due to flooding. Apparently it's worse this time. Hopefully I'll be back soon.

Game Plan, sort of.

So to follow up from a previous post, and then an even previouser post. I made that word up but it's pretty good.

I mentioned about my head spinning from all the zig zagged plans going on between my husband and myself over joining or not joining and all that.

Remember my statement that was something about giving up because it's the right thing to do for my family? Scratch that.

My latest brain storm is that I will be signing my life (or at least a couple years) to the Navy in return for payment of my medical schooling along with several other benefits.

I have decided that I want to become an Obstetrician/gynecologist. The only problem with this is that would mean at least another 4 years of school. The schooling isn't the problem. The problem is that I can't work while I attend medical school and my husband planned on going back to school once he got out. SO that puts us in a predicament. My husband offered to put off his education for another 4 years but that would put him up there hitting 30 before he goes back and that is just ridiculous.

Since we need to make money but also need to go to school I have found the perfect solution. The Navy has a program where they give you money towards your education along with a salary and health care in return for your service. Since I wanted to join anyways this is unbelievably perfect.

I feel as if my stars just aligned, no lie. Lately I have been very stressed out and just off in every way possible. I started feeling better looking into medical colleges but when I found this little bit of information from the Navy I practically jumped out of my seat.

I still don't know if it's definite yet. I have to talk to a recruiter and make sure it's all possible first. Fingers crossed on this one!

Back and forth

Recently I wrote about wanting to join the military. First of all let me state that I forgot to mention that my husband was planning on getting out. I wouldn't be against both of us being in the military if we didn't already have our daughter. Some branches won't even let me join being a military wife and having a daughter anyways.

But anyways, what I'm getting at is a decision has been made, I believe. We have literally gone in zig zags. Normally you would hear the term circles but what we did wasn't a circle. It was hectic and all over the place.

We went from him getting out and moving to Concord, NC while he gets his bachelors and I work. Then when he's done I go back to school again for my sonography degree. Or do my clinical hours at night or something.

Then it went to him getting out and me getting in. Problems being he would have been ok with it as long as it was any branch other than the Marine Corps. Apparently women in the Marine Corps are treated like pieces of meat and not respected? Or multiple other reasons.

So then we moved to him reenlisting and me joining. I was never for this it just got thrown on the table and tossed around a bit.

And then we moved back to just me in the military.

And now I believe we are back at our original plan of no one in the military and moving to Concord.

I just realized that once you have a family there aren't a lot of things you have to give up that actually hurt, but this is a big one. I'm going to be slightly grumpy for a minute or two but in the end it's the right decision for our family.

BUT if I decide to go back to school and become an Obstetrician then the Navy it will be. But I think I'm probably sticking with my bachelors or some decent job for a bit using that.

What I can tell you is that I have one hell of a headache and my eyes are crossing. Big life decisions such the life out of me.

Oh, and for whoever anonymously commented on my previous post complaining about my complaining and saying I'm just like who I'm complaining about... I believe I just made my point. And don't comment anonymously. The absolute worst I would do to you over a negative comment is delete it. But I would prefer you didn't comment at all. After all this is MY blog. I don't write it to make good reading for you. I write it to relieve the stresses of my day. So if you don't want to read I don't care. I just don't want to read anymore anonymous, or any negative comments for that matter.

Patience is a virtue.

Let me start this off by saying I am taking really deep relaxing breaths right now to get through this.

Many of you military wives know about the Sears Heroes at Home registry. Sears and people who donate give free gift cards away to something like 23,000 active duty military families around christmas time. It's a wonderful opportunity and very thoughtful gesture.

There are some people who understand how much of a blessing this is and that it's not something we are owed but something we could possibly be given. As in a gift. As in you don't cry and whine when you don't get one. As in stop being so immature about it because I swear if I read one more comment like that I will come to your house and flick you in the nose!

So my point here is that the registry was supposed to end yesterday but they are redoing the registry this Saturday the 3rd at 2pm EST. The redo is because I, like many other people, tried to register but due to a glitch in the system for certain birthdays, was told I wasn't 18 and therefore could not register. I assure you I am 21 and since I was using my husband's information and he is 24 we are both of age.

Anyways, they announced this redo and some people who were able to register successfully yesterday are flipping out and being completely ridiculous about it. Saying things like it's unfair and too bad. Let me just say that I wish I wasn't associated with these women. They disgrace the military wife image and I for one would love to personally NJP them. You know, if that could actually happen and all.

It just blows my mind how people could be so rude and act so inconsiderate towards a company who is DONATING gift cards to us. First of all, you are not entitled just because you are a military spouse. It's a first come first serve basis therefore there will be a ton of families who don't get one. I just cannot stand when people act like this let along MILITARY WIVES!!!

This is about to get ugly for a second. Pardon me.

Let me start this by saying YOU DO NOT DESERVE ANYTHING! No one is ever entitled to anything. Also, you are supposed to be a role model. You are more than likely embarrassing your husband on a daily basis because I'm sure you act like that all the time. Take a big piece of humble pie and realize that your job is to represent your husband while he is fighting for our country and your fellow military wives who stand beside you. It's wives like you that make me want nothing to do with this lifestyle because I'm constantly having to fight for the decent wives since for some reason kindness and poise is constantly being out-shined by rudeness and vulgarity.

Ok. I think I'm done. I just want people to understand that yes, there are some horrible versions of the military wife. But there are also some really great ones. I for one never use my husband's military status to get a step ahead in anything. And that's how it should be because although it is an honorable job to stand by my husband while he fights for our freedom, I am not the one in uniform.

Yes, I will register to hopefully receive some gift cards that are donated by generous people out of the kindness of their hearts. BUT if I don't no biggy.

Oh, my last thought. Some of these, lets call them cave people, we're bringing up the fact that now their children wont have toys for christmas or because they are military they don't have money for christmas. Are you kidding me? I HATE when people play the poor card. Sure, military members don't get paid a whole lot. BUT we get healthcare, housing and all sorts of benefits that make up for it. My husband is a LCPL and we have a daughter and we still managed to have money and I know a lot of other wives who do too. The people who complain and play the pity card are the ones who have 7 kids and horrible money managing skills. And as I said before, for some reason they are the only ones shown to the rest of the world and therefore we all look like moronic, moneyless, whiners. And I for one, am not happy about being bunched in with them.

Ok, I'm done. Normally I say don't let it bother you since you can't control it but I feel as if there has to be something we can do to prevent the term military wife from almost being an undesirable, negative thing. I for one love that I get to support my husband. It doesn't matter how much money we make, it matters that we make enough to be happy. I am proud of my husband and I hope he is proud of me.