Nature vs. Nurture

Recently I had to discuss my views on nature vs nurture related to leaders. In other classes I've had to talk about this as well and I always get overwhelmed. It's such a hard topic to discuss because I really believe there is no answer nor will there ever be.

Do we become the people we are because we were brought up a certain way? Or are we the person we were always meant to be? I would like to think that we have a say in who we become instead of having no control. But several times in my life I have found strength to overcome things that I never thought I would have had. So is it destiny?

The religious side of me says nature but the curious part of me says nurture. In the end I'm still confused. I would like to think I have control but when I think about it I never have control. I believe that everything happens for a reason and that there is a bigger plan for my life than I can see. Believing that everything happens for a reason has gotten me through some very tough times.

I recently read something that said God never gives you more than you can handle. He puts people in your life who are meant to be there in order to make you who you are supposed to be.

It's calming once you fully believe that everything is part of a bigger plan. So although I still think that every day you need to put your best effort in, I believe that you will eventually become the person you are meant to be.

I've only recently focused on religion. Just a little while ago I was a mess of a person. Once I opened my mind and heart up I felt as if I became a whole new person. It's almost as if I realize who I want and need to be now. Hardships have shaped me but so have some really great people. Mainly I owe who I am today to my husband and my mother in law. My husband pushes me every day to be the best version of myself. My mother in law leads by example. She is the most kind hearted and free spirited person I have ever known. She puts all of her faith and trust in God. She is such a remarkable woman and I'm so thankful that she raised such an amazing man.

I think I just contradicted my belief in nature haha. After spending more time with my mother in law and being open to criticism from my husband I have become a better person therefor nurture played a role. But was that part of the plan all along?

GAHH!!! It's such a confusing thought!

I need to stop before my brain explodes.